My wife and I have been married for 20 years, and we’d gone almost seven months without sex. We felt more like co-tenants than a couple. The guide helped us become intimate again, but it also helped me understand that intimacy happens throughout the day, not just in the bedroom. That was an important lesson for me: paying attention to our connection outside the bedroom matters to our sex life too.

Before we got married, we had sex frequently, so the drop in our sex life after marriage was noticeable. We were newly married, and the guide helped us get things going again. It also helped me recognise how important it is to keep making an effort with each other. Being married doesn’t mean we can become complacent about intimacy. Our relationship still needs the attention and effort we gave it before.

My partner and I had different levels of desire. I felt my sex drive was low, while theirs was much higher. The guide helped me understand our relationship and my partner better, and communicate about our different needs. It also helped me recognise that we become aroused in different ways. Understanding those differences has helped us bond and given us a clearer way to talk about intimacy and what we each need.

I have a higher sex drive than my husband, so we don’t always want sex as often as each other. The guide helped us communicate about that difference and agree on days for intimacy that work for us both. Having that agreement has helped us find an approach that suits our relationship. We’ve been able to talk about our different needs and make time together in a way that works for us.

While recovering from cancer, I had worries and insecurities about having sex. My wife wanted us to have sex regularly, but I needed to talk about what was worrying me. The guide helped me have those conversations and explain what I was feeling. For me, its value was in helping me communicate with my wife about a part of our relationship that I was finding difficult.

After we had children, our priorities changed, and so did our intimacy. The guide and its exercises helped my husband and me bring romance back into our relationship and make a conscious effort with our sex life. Working through the material helped us give that part of our marriage more attention. It reminded us to make room for romance alongside the other priorities that came with having children.

My husband and I have been married for 17 years, and he felt that intimacy between us had become almost non-existent. Pain from a previous relationship was still affecting our marriage. The guide helped me communicate my worries and explain the issues that were affecting our intimacy. Being able to talk about those things has helped, and I’ve seen a big improvement in that part of our relationship.